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HELLO FRIENDS: 8.1.13 – "I Have A Friend Who…" Part 3

Hello Friends,

In the next several weeks, WSFC staff members will present honest discussion on several issues brought up after our “I Have A Friend Who…” series. This week, Seth Baker talks to us about hearing from God and Kristina Davis talks to us about feeling alone and unwanted.

I Have A Friend Who Doesn’t Feel God Hears Them by Seth Baker

Take comfort friend, God indeed loves you and He indeed hears you. John 3:16 says “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” God so loved the world, that he gave his most precious and only son. God loves everyone without condition, without exception. He loves us so much that he made a way for us to be in communion with him. Many times when life is not going so very great, we think that God has abandoned us.  We ask, “If God really loved us He wouldn’t let harm come our way, right? If he really heard us he would bail us out of whatever harm befalls us.”
God is a God of love, he is not a personal genie that is there at our beck and call for whatever we want. Nor is he a far off being that is so consumed with the the cosmos that he can’t be bothered with our small lives. God very much does care about our lives. Take for example my dad. My dad loves me dearly, I know this without a doubt. My dad is very active in my life. There were times when I was not even aware of what he did for me but he was constantly advocating for me. For the most part, my dad let me make my own decisions. If I sought his advice he would usually give it to me.  However, there were times when I wouldn’t seek his advice and more often then not I would get myself into a pretty big pickle. After wallowing in my mess for a while, I would call my dad and ask him for help. That did not always mean that he would get me out of the mess. Sometimes, I had to deal with the consequences of my actions.
I take a similar view of God. God is always there for us, he always hears us but I think he also lets us make our own decisions and then he lets us deal with the consequences. This does not mean he doesn’t love us, he already displayed his love when he gave his son so that we might have eternal life.
Some might have a hard time “hearing” God and therefore they might feel God does not hear them. Hearing God is natural but it is also learned, it takes practice. I have found that I hear God speak when I am daily in his word; my heart and mind become tuned in as it were. I begin to understand God’s will for my life and I become aware of his vast love for me. His love is relentless.

– Seth Baker
seth.baker@wsfc.org

I Have A Friend Who Feels Alone & Unwanted By Family by Kristina Davis

After moving to a new city a year ago, I had many moments of extreme loneliness and what felt like desertion by God. I became restless, sleepless, and at times, hopeless. Even if I was surrounded by people, I felt distant and alone. Maybe you’ve felt like me before. Or maybe you’ve dealt with more extreme feelings of loneliness. You’ve been deserted by family; felt as far away from God as possible; dealt with divorce; and rejected by a close friend. You feel misunderstood, orphaned, and forgotten. Or maybe a close friend of yours has dealt with some of these things.

Here’s what I would say to us (I need reminding too!) from what I’ve learned and what God says to us through His word:

We’re not alone in feeling alone.
Jesus experienced rejection from His family (Mark 6:1-6); betrayal of a close disciple (Mark 14:10,11); and even desertion by God the Father at His death! (Mark 15:34). Of anyone that has “been there” before, it would be Him. He sympathizes with our weaknesses (Hebrews 4:14-16).

We were created with purpose, for community.
It may feel at times that God’s playing a terrible trick on us by the fact that we feel so lonely, but what I have learned is that it’s actually quite a beautiful thing. Here’s why – it reminds me that I was lovingly and thoughtfully intended for a relationship with God & others (Psalm 139). Even when it feels like no one is there, we can stand on the truth that God has not deserted us because:
He modeled community – Through the Trinity, we know that God is one God, three attributes, Father, Son & Holy Spirit, working together as one (Genesis 1:26, 27, Mark 1:9-11).
• He made community – God made humans in His image and said “It is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18). His intention is for us to be in community not only with Him, but with each other.
       • He multiplied community – God’s desire is that we would grow intentionally alongside a community of believers, while reaching out to others that don’t know Him as well. In this, we grow in ways we couldn’t by ourselves (1 Corinthians 12:12-13:13). The book of Acts documents the first church or “body of Christ”. Check it out!

We are restored to community with God through Jesus.
Why would a God who created us for community leave us unwanted and alone because of sin or anything else? There’s now no separation between us & God because of His great love for us through Jesus (Ephesians 2:13-15). We are called His children (Romans 8:14) and are therefore brothers and sisters in Christ and also heirs of God! (Romans 8:17) This is cause for celebration!

We have the company of the Holy Spirit.
We are not left as orphans (John 14:18). We have the Comforter, Helper, Advocate & Encourager in us and with us. It’s the presence of the Holy Spirit (John 14:16). It’s this truth that I can most readily confirm to you. In my deepest moments of loneliness, sadness or rejection I can confidently declare to you that those are some of my most tender and beautiful moments with God. This truth changes my perspective and gives me hope in the moment. You know why? Because the Holy Spirit also guides us into all truth (John 14:17). Have you received the Holy Spirit in your life? If not, let one of us here at WSFC know and we’ll pray with you.

We are in process.
For those seeking to be like Christ, we know He will work things out for good (Romans 8:28, 29). Although we have been made new, we are still in process until we meet Christ in Heaven. We are being sanctified or, are being made holy (Hebrews 2:11, 10:14). Let Him take this season and make you even more beautiful after it. Much like refined silver or gold. Know that there will be an end – something you’ll have learned through it all. I believe He will never let you go!

In the Meantime…
Scripture:
Advice from David: “Yet I am confident I will see the LORD’s goodness while I am here in the land of the living. Wait patiently for the LORD. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the LORD” (Psalm 27:13, 14).
God’s love for Israel is for us too: “When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you” (Isaiah 43:2).

Song Recommendations:
• “Your Love Never Fails” – Jesus Culture
• “You’ll Come” – Hillsong
• “Exalted One” – Elevation Worship
• “Come to Me” – Bethel Music/Jenn Johnson (A song from God’s perspective)
• “You Are For Me” – Kari Jobe
• “You Have Me” – Gungor
• “Your Love Is Strong” – Jon Foreman
• “Desert Song” – Hillsong

If I have learned anything from my walk with God, it’s that He remains faithful. I believe He will show you His faithfulness! That’s my prayer for us today.

– Kristina Davis
kristina.davis@wsfc.org

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